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Your posts are a gift! I look forward to each one.

The lens of seeing the world through the memory of another....

Yes, that happens often.

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Thank you for this, Mary. I am lucky that I am able to pass this along to my parents, in their 80's, who will enjoy reading it as well.

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Please give them my greetings! I hope they’re enjoying their new place.

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Beautifully said. Thank you for sharing such insighful words that always hit home for me. Happy belated birthday to your wonderful father. Hugs from afar <3

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Hugs back to you. I know you know all about this kind of odd birthday.

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This blog came to me at just the right time. My loss is still alive, but an ever present loss nevertheless. Thank you for your words. I will surround myself with grateful thoughts of my child today. Blessings

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So complex. Blessings to you.

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Oh Mary! You ALWAYS seem to translate my feelings into eloquent writings! I LOVE this!!!!

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Thank you, Linda! ❤️

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oofff. this shows me that my 71-year-old dad helped 30-year-old me load my whole house into a Uhaul and move it into the new place 4 hours away. It had not occurred to me that this was preposterous. I thought my daddy would never get old! annnnnd...

i love to do things that my parents would enjoy. I carry them with me and talk to them a lot.

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You had a better view of his capabilities! Now that I understand more, I see that sixty is (ahem...) really, really young!

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So true, Mary, so true!

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So, so beautiful! I try to have a little mini-celebration for my "beloved dead," on their birthdays. That's a good day to remember their actual lives and, for example, love of donuts! So glad you're writing here!

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Nice! I love that. It adds little moments of love to the whole year.

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Ah Mary. Beautiful, really. I think of so many people every day … so glad for the gift of presence that you write about so beautifully. Thank you for this gift today!

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Thank you, friend! Your wisdom always stays with me, even from afar.

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Ah Mary. Beautiful, really. I think of so many people every day … so glad for the gift of presence that you write about so beautifully. Thank you for this gift today!

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