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I feel like this in amplified x100 when you live abroad (with a language barrier) and a kind stranger helps you in a time of need (because those times are always a bit more desperate when you're in an unfamiliar place). I fall in love with any health care provider that helps me while abroad. Yesterday a bus driver helped me out by illegally taking me on board with my flat tire bike and in my mind, we're basically besties now.

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Oh, Jane, that’s so interesting. More need and fewer resources make it even more lovely. Thanks for that insight. And yay for the bus driver!

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I am better at this in retirement than when I was so stressed or busy while working, especially with kids at home. But even then I got to annoy my girls by striking up conversations with complete strangers in simple shopping situations. (So I got double the pleasure! 😉) Now they do it too!

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Lol. You passed this on! I did, too.

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Thank you for this reminder, Mary. Traveling home through the Detroit airport recently with a toddler-derived head cold, I couldn't see much beyond my own mask. I'll have your wisdom in my head this weekend as I drive the elders in my life the 20 hours from DC to NoLa. I'll try to stay present this time and see beyond my own frame.

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That’s an epic journey! How fun to have that time with them.

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Haha! My husband would totally say that too. Or an electrician?

Also, it's wild the games people have to play with their insurance. As an hourly worker now (with a ton of privilege!) it is wild to see the infantilization of actual adults who are doing the best they can. We can get "tardies."

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It’s absurd, the insurance madness. And, yes, an electrician!

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Indeed. Also, meant to say that it doesn't take much to ask about someone's day and hear a little of their story, and it helps. Thank you for this!

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As always, Mary, you say it so well! My new year’s resolution is to cultivate micro-connections everywhere I go! ❤️

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Aww, lovely! Thank you!

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